CARING FOR A LOVED ONE WITH COPD

January 9, 2023

Chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD) is a progressive, chronic disease. COPD is also a leading cause of disability and death in the United States. As the disease progresses, caring for a loved one with COPD can be overwhelming and challenging. Symptoms can be frightening and hard to manage without the expert care hospice or palliative care brings. We hope our blog provides insights to help you understand COPD and empowers you to care for a loved one with this devastating disease.

 

UNDERSTANDING COPD

COPD is an umbrella term for a range of progressive lung diseases. Chronic bronchitis and emphysema can both result in COPD. According to the American Lung Association, the airways in your lungs become inflamed and thickened with COPD, and the tissue where oxygen is exchanged is destroyed. The flow of air in and out of your lungs decreases. When that happens, less oxygen gets into your body tissues, and it becomes harder to rid the body of carbon dioxide waste. As the disease gets worse, shortness of breath makes it harder to remain active.

 

COPD is a chronic disease with no cure. COPD is also a progressive disease and can gradually get worse. How fast it progresses from mild to severe varies from person to person. The primary, or main, cause of COPD is smoking. But not all smokers develop the disease.

 

COPD SYMPTOMS

Living with COPD has both mental and physical challenges that cold winter days can amplify. The change in season and drop in temperature can cause COPD symptoms to worsen, and you may notice your loved one struggling even more than usual, potentially resulting in unexpected trips to the emergency room (ER) and hospital stays.

 

In the early stages of COPD, symptoms will be milder. Your loved one will likely feel out of breath with activities like walking up stairs. They may attribute symptoms to “getting older.” In these early days their lifestyle will be less impacted than in later stages.


As COPD progresses into later stages, symptoms will increase and become more difficult to manage without expert support. Your loved one will struggle more with
shortness of breath. Their lifestyle will feel greatly impacted as almost any activity will lead to shortness of breath. COPD patients in later stages may make frequent trips to the ER or be admitted to the hospital for uncontrolled symptoms.


ACCEPTING SUPPORT

As a family caregiver it may be difficult for you to accept support. Many of us take on this role believing that it is solely our responsibility. Accepting support may feel like you’re giving up the care of your loved one to someone else. But it’s important to understand that when caring for a loved one with a serious illness like COPD, gaining the support of an expert team will help you ensure the best care possible. You will also remain an active part of the caregiving team when partnering with Ascend Hospice & Palliative Care. We bring an extra layer of expert care and support that works alongside the care you give to your loved one.


Accepting support also helps you be a better caregiver. The emotional and physical stress of caring for a loved one with COPD can be overwhelming. Accepting support, allowing hospice to “share the care,” can help you avoid caregiver burnout and empower you to care for your loved one.


HOW CAN HOSPICE HELP A LOVED ONE WITH COPD


While there is no cure for this chronic and progressive disease, Ascend Hospice & Palliative Care can greatly improve quality of life. Our team of caregivers, including registered nurses and hospice physicians, is uniquely trained in the management of COPD. Through highly skilled care that controls symptoms and reduces anxiety, discomfort and stress, Ascend reduces the burden of illness and enhances quality of life.


-   Ascend Hospice CNAs help with everyday responsibilities that may become more difficult for your loved one, like bathing, grooming, changing linens, light housekeeping and simple meal preparation.

-   Our expert care helps control distressing symptoms, including shortness of breath, fatigue, chest pain, depression and anxiety.

-   Our hospice care offers patient-focused care with individual plans of care and 24/7 access to Ascend nurses. This support helps reduce ER visits and hospitalizations.

-   We help you feel empowered by ensuring you understand COPD and how to prepare for your loved one’s changing needs.

-   Our care includes physical, emotional and spiritual support focused on whole-person well-being.

-   Ascend Hospice provides and oversees all equipment, supplies and medications related to your loved one’s COPD.

 

WHEN IS THE RIGHT TIME TO CONSIDER HOSPICE CARE?

Ascend offers both hospice and palliative care for COPD patients. Our palliative care services are available during any stage of COPD. Ascend Palliative Care provides symptom management and helps ease the stress and burden of illness. Hospice becomes an option when your focus turns from seeking a cure to seeking quality for the time that remains, usually six months or less. Hospice often becomes a choice when a loved one or you are seeking relief from frequent emergency room visits or are physically or emotionally tired of challenging treatments that no longer have a positive impact on life expectancy or quality. Your loved one’s increasing discomfort and symptoms can help determine when the full support of hospice care would be more beneficial than palliative care. Hospice care may be a choice when your loved one is:


-   Spending more time sleeping or resting in a favorite chair

-   Experiencing repeated cases of bronchitis, pneumonia and other lung infections

-   Experiencing increasing shortness of breath, even at rest

-   Having more difficulty with daily care like grooming, bathing, eating or dressing

-   Visiting the ER for frightening or uncontrolled symptoms

-   Experiencing a decline in physical endurance and requiring oxygen use for the majority of the time or all the time

-   Feeling their medications are no longer as effective

-   Showing signs of decreased appetite and unexplained weight loss 

 

At Ascend Hospice & Palliative Care we believe in the combined power of compassion, expert care, real support and understanding. Every day we empower those in our care to live more fully. Our care is not about giving up, but about hope. If you are struggling with caring for a loved one with a serious illness like COPD, we can walk beside you. We can help you determine when our palliative care or hospice care may be the best option. Reach out to us for support, answers and comfort — you don’t have to face COPD alone.


 

 


June 30, 2025
A few months ago, beloved actor Gene Hackman and his wife, Betsy Arakawa, were found deceased in their New Mexico home. Investigators believe Arakawa passed away first—possibly up to a week before Hackman. Shortly before her death, she had reached out to a local clinic . Later, Hackman’s pacemaker data helped confirm the timeline of his own passing. The medical examiner determined that Arakawa died from hantavirus pulmonary syndrome , a rare and dangerous respiratory illness transmitted by rodents. Hackman died from advanced heart disease , with Alzheimer’s disease contributing to his decline. Experts suggest that his cognitive impairment likely prevented him from recognizing Arakawa’s death—or, if he did realize it, he may have experienced confusion, heartbreak, and helplessness before ultimately passing away himself. We may consider Gene Hackman’s last role to be his final lesson, a wake-up call for caregivers and families. It’s a profoundly tragic story—one that reflects a reality many families quietly face. As our loved ones age, especially when one becomes the caregiver, a sudden health crisis can leave the other stranded in a dangerous situation. What Can We Learn? This heartbreaking story offers more than grief—it offers perspective. It’s a reminder to be proactive, observant, and involved in the lives of aging loved ones. Here’s ways we can help. 1. Know the Conditions Affecting Your Loved Ones In Hackman’s case, the central health challenges were heart disease and Alzheimer’s. Recognizing the signs of heart trouble—chest pain, fatigue, breathlessness—and understanding how dementia can mask or confuse those symptoms is critical. 2. Caregivers Need Care Too When the caregiver goes down, the one who relies on them is suddenly exposed. Arakawa’s sudden illness likely left Hackman alone, disoriented, and unable to seek help. Caregivers often suffer in silence, pushing past their limits. Regular check-ins and support for them are just as essential. 3. A Simple Visit Can Save a Life A timely visit from a friend or relative might have changed the outcome. Subtle signs—rodent activity, spoiled food, confusion, hygiene issues—could have triggered help before it was too late. Don’t underestimate the power of simply showing up. What to Watch For: A Family Checklist If you have aging parents, relatives, or friends, here are some key areas to keep an eye on: Physical Health • Sudden weight loss or gain • Bruises, burns, or signs of falls • Unkempt appearance or body odor • Difficulty walking or standing Cognitive & Emotional Well-being • Memory loss or repeating questions • Depression, anxiety, or social withdrawal • Unsafe behavior such as leaving appliances on • Unusual mail or phone activity Home Conditions • Spoiled food, pest presence, or clutter • Safety hazards (dim lighting, loose rugs) • Appliances or plumbing not working Nutrition & Kitchen Safety • Expired food or low food supply • Dirty or neglected kitchen tools • Avoiding cooking altogether Medication Compliance • Confused about medications or missed doses • Expired or improperly labeled prescriptions Social Interaction • Isolation or reluctance to leave the house • Loss of interest in hobbies or community involvement Financial Awareness • Unpaid bills or unopened mail • Signs of financial exploitation or scams Tech & Communication • Can they use a phone in an emergency? • Are they responsive to calls or messages? What To Do If You Notice a Problem If you see red flags, don’t panic—but don’t ignore them either. Start with an honest, caring conversation. Explain that your concern comes from love, not judgment. Then, consider next steps: • Schedule a check-up with their doctor • Bring in help, even part-time support • Assess whether the home needs modifications • Explore new living arrangements if necessary Whether it’s weekly dinners, video chats, or simple texts—stay involved–consistent contact keeps you in tune with your loved ones’ needs and builds a safety net they may not even know they need. Final Thought If Gene Hackman’s last role is to serve as a final lesson, it’s a wake-up call for caregivers and families. Gene Hackman’s final days are a sobering reminder: Don’t wait until something goes wrong. Aging can be beautiful—but it also comes with risk, especially in solitude. Let this story motivate you to reconnect, check in, and truly see how your loved ones are doing. Additional Resources: Learn more about Congestive Heart Failure: https://www.ascendhealth.com/caring-for-a-loved-one-with-chf-this-summer https://www.ascendhealth.com/caring-for-a-loved-one-with-chf Learn more about dementia and Alzheimer’s disease: https://www.ascendhealth.com/alzheimers-caregiving-7-signs-its-time-for-extra-support https://www.ascendhealth.com/coping-with-alzheimers-anxiety-and-depression Need a health or safety assessment for a loved one? Contact Us or call today.
May 27, 2025
Honoring your dad on Father’s Day after he has passed can be a meaningful and healing experience. Here are ten ways to remember and celebrate him: 1 - Wear or Carry Something of His – A watch, a shirt, a piece of jewelry—something that belonged to him can provide comfort and keep his presence close. 2 - Dedicate a Song or Playlist – Create a playlist of songs that remind you of moments you’ve shared together. 3 - Recreate a moment in time – Recreate a favorite memory (fishing trip, movie night, road trip) 4 - Plan a Dad’s night out - plan an outing to one of his favorite places. It could be a restaurant, a game, or simply a scenic spot. 5 - Plan a Dad’s night in - Invite family and friends over to reminisce and serve a buffet of his favorite foods. 6 - Build Something Meaningful - if you’re good with your hands, build something he would have liked. If you’re not you can always buy something like a bird house and mount it outside in his honor or have a memory bear made from some of his favorite clothes. 7 - Frame Something – buy a store-bought frame or go to a frame shop. Frame a quote, his quote or one that he liked. Or frame a photo of one of his favorite things like a sports team photo, a movie scene image, or a favorite athlete or musician. 8 - Create a Video or Slideshow – Gather old photos and videos, and compile them into a slideshow with music that he loved. 9 - Honor His Legacy – Start an interactive tradition in his honor like a family gathering, storytelling night, or community service. 10 - Plant Forget-me-nots in a favorite place or deliver potted Forget-me-nots to others that miss him too. No matter how you choose to honor your dad, focus on the love you have for him and realize and embrace that he loved you. He wouldn’t want you to cry all day, he would want you to smile and remember the good moments. Read also how to survive your first Father’s day without Dad .