HOW TO DISCUSS HOSPICE WITH YOUR DOCTOR

Alex Midgett • November 1, 2023

Discussing hospice care with your doctor is an important and often emotionally charged conversation. Hospice care is typically considered when curative measures have been ineffective and are unlikely to bring about a cure. Hospice helps those coping with serious illness manage symptoms and focus on finding as much comfort as possible for whatever time remains. Here are a few tips to approach this discussion with your doctor:


1 - Schedule the right kind of appointment:

Schedule an appointment with your doctor that allows enough time for a real conversation. Ensure you have a private and quiet space to discuss sensitive matters.

 

2 - Bring Someone for Support:

You may feel overwhelmed during the conversation, so having a trusted friend or family member with you can provide emotional support and help you remember the details of the discussion.

 

3 - Be Open and Honest:

Start the conversation by expressing your feelings and concerns honestly. You can say something like, "I've been thinking about my condition and the options available. I'd like to discuss the possibility of hospice care."

 

4 - Come Prepared:

Come prepared knowing as much about hospice care as you can, such as how it works, what services are provided, where it can be administered (at home, in a facility), and what to expect. Read online or contact us to learn more. Do not assume your provider is knowledgeable about hospice care, doctors are trained to be curative.

 

5 - Listen to Your Doctor:

Your doctor will advise about hospice and how appropriate it is for your situation. Pay attention to their recommendations and explanations.

 

6 - Share Your Goals and Wishes:

Share your personal goals for care, whether it's to manage symptoms, be at home, or to have more quality time with loved ones. Your doctor can help align these goals with the hospice services available.

 

7 - Include Your Family:

If you have family members involved in your care, include them in the conversation. Discuss their concerns and preferences as well.

 

8 - Consider the hospice team roles:

Your hospice care team may include nurses, social workers, chaplains, and volunteers. Consider how their roles might help your situation and voice how they might help you.

 

9 - Be Ready to Review Any Required Documentation:

Your doctor may make a formal referral to a hospice program. Make sure you understand the process and be ready to review any paperwork he may suggest.

 

10 - Understand Who Pays For Hospice:

Understand who pays for hospice care. If you are on Medicare, it’s a Medicare benefit or your insurance may pay for it.

 

11 - Make an Informed Decision:

After discussing everything in detail, take your time to consider your options. Discuss the decision with your family, loved ones, and other healthcare professionals if necessary.

                       

Remember that the decision to choose hospice care is your personal choice. It should support your values and goals for care. Your doctor's role is to provide information and guidance to help you make an informed decision that best meets your needs and wishes. Learn more here or contact us to learn more.


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